GET RID OF THOSE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS THAT PUSH PEOPLE AWAY FROM YOU

None of us are immune to the
negative thoughts that creep up in the backs of our minds.  However, that
doesn’t mean we have to succumb to them. Whether your negative thinking
is a common occurrence, or just a once in a while phenomena, it’s critical for
your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you’re
thinking negatively, and consciously shift your mindset from negative to
positive. 

1. “I need to be exactly who they want me to be.” – Life offers you a priceless opportunity in every
   single moment to see and experience Who You Really Are.  Seize
   it!  Sometimes we get completely lost in trying to live life for
   others, trying to meet their expectations, doing things just to impress
   them.  Take a moment now and stop yourself.  Are you doing
   things because you truly believe in them?  Remember your own needs
   and goals.  Remember who YOU are.  Live, do and love so that you
   are happy too, because when it comes down to it, you can’t be true to
   others unless you are true to yourself first.




2. “I don’t like them because they are different.” – Make a promise to yourself.  Promise to stop
   the drama before it begins, to breathe deeply and peacefully, and to love
   others and yourself without conditions.  Promise to laugh at your own
   mistakes, and to realize that no one is perfect; we are all human. 
   Feelings of self-worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual
   differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is
   open, and rules are flexible.




3. “They have it so much easier than me.” – No one
   has it easier than you.  Every one of us is fighting our own private
   battles.  The strongest among us aren’t those who show strength we
   can see, but those who have won incredible inner battles we know nothing
   about.  Assuming someone has it easier than you only builds a barrier
   between the two of you.




4.  “I don’t have enough (or I am not enough) to
   make a difference.” – Many of your greatest accomplishments in life
   will come when you are able to bless someone else while you are going through your own storm. 
   So regardless of what’s going on in your life, be gentle and kind. 
   Think before you speak and act.  Always remember that the words and
   actions you choose can only be forgiven, not forgotten.  You were
   made to make a difference, so embrace every opportunity to do so.  No
   act of your kindness, no matter how tiny, will ever be wasted.




5. “It’s all their fault.” – If you sit around for too long blaming others for
   the things they did or didn’t do, or know or didn’t know, you’ll remain
   sitting in one spot until you pass.  Placing blame is easy, because
   it means you don’t have to do anything; you just have to sit around for
   your entire life.  But that’s not living; that’s dying.  To
   accept where you are without blame by seizing the present for what it is – for the
   opportunities it’s giving you every instant – that’s what injects life
   into your story, into your relationships, and ultimately moves you
   forward.




6. “I will never forgive them.” – We often keep our hearts closed, not because we don’t
   trust others not to leave us, let us down, or stop loving us, but because
   we don’t trust ourselves to survive the pain of them leaving, letting us
   down, or not loving us anymore.  How ironic, considering that only by
   suffering through these very losses, do we come to realize our true
   strength.  Truth be told, it takes a strong heart to love, but it
   takes an even stronger heart to continue to love after it’s been
   hurt.  If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart,
   forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the
   importance of being cautious when you open your heart.  You are
   stronger now and better equipped to find the kind of love you
   deserve.  Bottom line: Don’t let the wrong people from your past keep
   you from the right people in your present.  Forgive and move forward.




7. “I’m way too busy for family and friends right now.” – The people you take for granted today may be the
   only ones you need tomorrow.  Never be too busy to make time for
   those who matter most, because sooner or later you just want to be around
   those special people who make you smile.  So today, make time for
   those who help you love yourself more.  Schedule them into your busy
   day.  They are worth it.




8. “It’s OK to stretch the truth sometimes.” – No, it really isn’t.  In fact, it’s
   disheartening to think how many people are shocked by honesty, and how few
   by deceit.  Don’t be one of them.  Uphold the truth,
   always.  Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often,
   and you should be the one shocking them with honest words and deeds every
   day.  The bottom line here is that an honest, loving heart is the
   beginning of everything that is right with this world.  It’s what
   brings us together and keeps us together through thick and thin.




9. “My mistakes today prove that I am a failure.” – This mindset will drive you and everyone around you
   crazy.  Finish each day and be done with it.  You have done the
   best you could.  Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in;
   forgive and forget them as soon as you can. Remember, your failure does
   not define you, your determination does.  Failure is simply the
   opportunity to begin again, smarter than before.  Tomorrow is a new
   day.  You shall begin it peacefully and with too high a spirit to be
   encumbered with old nonsense.